How to Tell the Kids You're Moving

Moving with children adds a new dimension to the moving experience. They often won't understand what is happening and they may feel insecure about what is happening around them. Other children may be excited at the new possibilities and will be difficult to contain. Since moving is more and more of a normal event for families, I've written a post to discuss how to tell kids you're moving and to help them through the process.Involve them in the ProcessInvolving children in the process is important. When they feel that they are part of the family decision-making process, they will have a real investment in their life and in the family in general. When viewing homes online, ask them to take part in the ?browsing? portion of the home search. This will activate their imagination and they may even offer interesting insights or questions about homes you find. Take them along with the realtor to view the home you will be purchasing. Ask them what they think about it and discuss their concerns or excitements. You can show them the new neighborhood and help them acquaint themselves to their future home.Give them Ownership in the New HomeOnce you've found the new home, ask the kids what color they'd like their room painted or what sorts of furniture they'd like to have in the room. Help them make that part of the house their own. You may even ask them for their opinion on other household matters, such as what sorts of plants to put in the yard or what color to paint the living room. When kids have a sense of ownership in their environment they will be happier and more comfortable.Start the Discussion EarlyAs soon as you know that you'll be moving, start talking to the kids about it. The sooner your kids can begin to process the prospect of moving, the easier it will be for them. Tell them about their new town or neighborhood. If you don't know what neighborhood you'll be moving to, discuss whatever issues may concern them. Do they like being near to a park or is a large yard more to their liking? Do they need particular schools? If your child is involved in particular activities, discuss with them how the new place may or may not suit those activities.Saying GoodbyeOne key concern kids are likely to have is with friends. You might have their friends over for a party, or, if the home is in the mid-stages of packing, you might arrange an get-together at a favorite park or restaurant where the kids can exchange contact information or even small gifts. If your kids use Facebook or text messages, the transition will likely be smoother. If not, take plenty of pictures of them with their friends to keep the memories alive until they start making new ones.